One part of the process of restoring hope for the future is for each of us to expand our network of support and perspective. “Relationships are all there is,” writes Margaret Wheatley. “Everything in the universe only exists because it is in relationship to everything else. Nothing exists in isolation. We have to stop pretending we are individuals who can go it alone.”
Hermina Ibarra in her book, Act Like A Leader, Think Like A Leader( Harvard Business Review Press, 2015) writes that we need three kinds of networks, namely operational, personal and strategic. As she explains, “The first helps you manage current internal responsibilities, the second boosts personal development, and the third focuses on new business directions and the stakeholders you must get on board to pursue these directions.”
I have shared Ibarra’s insight in seminars and workshops over the years, and people have nodded in agreement. Yet, in private, they often say “How do I do this? I don’t know where to begin.” I have come to the conclusion that the idea makes sense, but most people just don’t know where to start.
The one thing I have learned from experience when expanding my networks is to seek out people who listen well. Then, over time, we can build a relationship where the sharing is deep and meaningful. The key is to find and commit to building a relationship with individuals who do not dominate a conversation as much as focus on making sure they understand what is being said. The integrity and experiences of these individuals who listen well becomes the foundation for regaining perspective, and ultimately hope about the future.
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