The Law of the Comfort Zone states that “True change does not occur until you step outside your comfort zone.” At first glance, this seems obvious. At second glance, we have the potential to grasp the magnitude of this statement, and to realize the significance of it’s impact. For when we truly step outside our comfort zone, things can feel unstable, crazy, and chaotic. We also can feel bewildered and stressed, lost and overwhelmed. It all happens in an instant, and then we are stunned by the impact of this action.
When I taught a year long course on leadership and organizational change for 24 years, I often referenced The Law of the Comfort Zone. I explained that when an individual, team, or an organization left their comfort zone, they needed three elements in place in order to transform chaos into a challenge. Those three elements were the support of a team, a strategic perspective, and a safety zone for strategic dialogue.
For most leaders, the first two elements made sense and, as a result, they often focused on strengthening their teams and creating a shared, strategic mindset. The third element was sometimes considered to be pretty touchy feely. It was often framed up as something nice, but not critical to success. Furthermore, it was perceived as highly abstract.
Nevertheless, the best leaders I met spent considerable time, energy, and resources to create a safety zone for dialogue. They recognized that psychological safety generated clarity and commitment for the work of change. They also recognized that we need to have a safety zone outside our comfort zone in order to grow, individually, collectively, and as an organization as a whole.
The act of stepping outside our comfort zone is an act of faith, because we do not fully understand the totality of all that is going to happen once we are outside our comfort zone. It also reflects a commitment to change, because once we step outside our comfort zone we, more likely, will encounter what feels like a danger zone and/or the feeling of total chaos. Thus, the goal of every leader is to be mindful of where are our safety zones in order for the magic of true change to take place.
But within this act of faith, and our desire to find and/or create safety zones, there is a critical element to success. It is the realization that we do not think our way into a new ways of leading, living, and working. Instead, we live our way into a new ways of thinking, feeling and being. By choosing to create safety zones, we are creating new ways of understanding change, which is the foundation for true change. Nevertheless, without the creation of a safety zone for dialogue and reflection, the outcomes of true change can not be fully manifested.
When I reflect on all the safety zones I have participated in during my career, I am reminded that they are places where people feel safe to take risks, to speak up, to disagree, and to share concerns without the fear of negative repercussions. And within the best safety zones I have witnessed there is trust amongst the participants. Stephen Covey in his book, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness (Free Press, 2004), reminds us that “trust is the fruit of trustworthiness of both people and organization.” It is a verb and a noun, and that “role modeling inspires trust without expecting it.”
Brene’ Brown in her book, Dare To Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations, Whole Hearts (Random House, 2018), notes that “We need to trust to be vulnerable and we need to be vulnerable in order to trust.” This is an important point in the generation of trust and in the creation of a safety zone where people will share ideas and perspectives that they value. And as a result of this sharing, they will make themselves and their ideas vulnerable to another person or persons reactions and actions.
There is something else that increases psychological safety and the creation of effective safety zones. In the beginning, we as leaders need to be very clear about what we are role modeling and what we are tolerating within a safety zone. For example, if we allow someone to blame or shame another, we are creating a level of toxicity within the safety zone that will cripple the important dialogue that needs to take place. Yet, if we actively invite input and clarify why different perspectives matter, we generate trust and safety.
We also generate something else, namely confidence. For what most leaders do not recognize is that my personal level of confidence impacts my ability to embrace and create true change. First and foremost, this level of personal confidence reflects the depth of my confidence in myself. And this is emotional as much as mental. I have to learn how to trust and respect myself before I can, to any degree, trust and respect my team. It also has direct impact on my confidence in the process that creates the conditions for true change and any plan to execute those changes.
At the exact same time, we need to remember the feeling of safety, the capacity to step outside one’s comfort zone, and the ability to grow in the process, all happen on different timelines. It is not a linear process where we step outside our comfort zone, enter a safety zone, share our thoughts and feelings, turn chaos into a challenge, all of which generates personal growth and successful organizational change. True change is not an A-B-C or 1-2-3 step process. Instead, it is the sum of multiple, highly dynamic processes, all interacting at multiple levels and in a multitude of different ways. The outcome of which is true change.
Herminia Ibarra in her book, Act Like A Leader, Think Like A Leader (Harvard Business Review Press, 2015), writes, “This cycle of acting like a leader and then thinking like a leader - of change from the outside in - creates what I call outsight.” She breaks down outsight into three core actions, namely redefining your job, your network, and yourself. Then, she notes something very important: “When challenged to think beyond their functional speciality and to concern themselves with strategic issues to support the overall business, many managers do not immediately grasp that these are also relational - not just analytical - tasks.”
And for me this is a critical point to true change and stepping outside one’s comfort zone. It also is a critical point to the creation of safety zones. The work on all these levels is more relational than analytical, and as such, it requires us as leaders to connect with people as people more than just connecting with them as a source of ideas.
In sum, we need to build bridges that generate personal trust, compassion, and hope more than just the sharing of some form of strategic, big picture. When we recognize the importance of people to people connections, we create a place that is safe, trusting, inclusive, and expansive. And this is a foundation for true change outside one’s comfort zone.
© Geery Howe 2024